What is so absurd about the 'learning to be tired' thing (other than the fact i dont feel tired of course), is that even if they understood the illness of which they claim to speak, they seem to have no understanding that the majority of us, during out initial viral recovery, did EXACTLY what they now recommend. We believed we were fine, couldnt understand why we kept getting these symptoms, didnt link them with activity or stop to rest because of the delay in PEM kicking in after the exertion. So certainly didnt avoid activity or overly rest until we literally could no longer stand up
We werent remotely anxious about our symptoms simply kept up the positive belief that we were fine & carried on with our lives.
When many of us became ill there was no medical advice, there was no internet or support groups, there was nowhere to be advised to rest or to pace or anything else. There was no 'amazon' to find abook about it, there was nothing in the local library, there was no research you could do as a patient.
I told myself i was well, believed i was well, behaved as if i was well. I assumed every massive (what-i-now-know-to-be-PEM) crash was a new virus, & I carried on as normal. Living my life, as normal. Until one day, about 18mnths after the initial virus/infection, it all came crashing down & i ended up in hospital with what they initially thought was a brain tumour.
There was no 'learning' anything. There was no cognitive or behavioural, or indeed emotional response prior to that collapse, other than completely ignoring & dismissing any & all symptoms.
I had undiagnosed ME for three and a half years BEFORE I became convinced that the fatigue was partly psychological. I was convinced I was recovering when I was running and pushing myself to work full days (I am a writer and musician and didn't have to do it which makes it so much harder to take!) I was in the best shape of my adult life by the time I crashed to moderate and housebound. And then I was referred to someone whose advice was to keep pushing and do get and that the ME association does more harm that good. 2 months later I was severe (although Covid didn't help). This happened in 2020. I was never directed to any resources to learn about my condition. Just gaslit or shrugged at or sympathetically lectured about the mind body connection.