The way the second sentence is worded is so problematic... It implies that you are either pathologically devoted to others or lying. Tails we win, heads you lose. Apart from being deshonest, and patronising, it is also revealing about their hubris. They can't be wrong. They can't imagine. These people that are supposed to understand all the complexities of the human works are so deluded about themselves that it is unbelievable.