You are in the US
@MErmaid ? It is interesting that you have had trouble there in finding decent people to help and with a degree of understanding, as it's certainly as bad, if not worse in the UK where I am. Luckily for me, I have a GP who though she doesn't bother to try to understand the thyroid, accepts that I know more than she does, and allows me to experiment. This is most unusual here especially where T3 is concerned. Like you, I have worked out the doses by myself, although I did use Paul Robinson's book on T3 to help at the outset.
I was lucky enough to find an Endo some 5 years ago who also let me try T3 only, and on the basis of that my GP lets me continue. Unfortunately that Endo moved on, and the 2 I have seen since just freak out about the TSH and one sent me off for a DEXA which showed osteoporosis, thus confirming their worst fears, and why I was prepared to take part in their little experiment on me last year. I know that many patient groups don't agree re the OP and T3 link, if you are having no hyper symptoms (I am not and haven't had), but it is a bit alarming if there are no other obvious causes.
I have returned to T3 only to improve my quality of life and as the last Endo sent me back to the GP for care, I am in a better place now to control things myself.
It is possible that I could have continued with a little T4, say 25mcg, (and I tried 12.5 for a while), but I am suspicious of one make of T3 and T4 which is given out here, called Teva, (made in Hungary I'm told) as the T3 definitely gives me Hypo symptoms and maybe it was the Teva T4 which did the same last year. We don't have generics in the UK re thyroid meds as far as I am aware, which is maybe surprising. Until recently we only had one make of T3, but recently 2 more companies have sold it here (including the Teva which is making me ill, and am having to now take the pharmacy to task as they tend to dole out whatever they are sent without question ie the cheapest).
So, I am luckier than most, and do ask questions and have a GP who seems to be positive about my approach. She even rang me once to ask me for advice as to where to send a patient of hers who needed NDT as she could not prescribe it.
Your last point is interesting. Yes, maybe that is the case.....the thyroid begins to go awry as an early warning system. For me it happened in menopause, so I foolishly assumed that the menopause was the cause of it all. Certainly for 15+ years my T4 medication was doled out, and no one thought to query my symptoms as being related to the thyroid at all. I had to pay privately for my own FT3 test which showed low and just out of range and that got me the referral to the Endo.