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Event: Respect and Shame in Healthcare and Bioethics, Dec 3rd 2021

Discussion in 'General ME/CFS News' started by Sly Saint, Nov 8, 2021.

  1. Sly Saint

    Sly Saint Senior Member (Voting Rights)

    Respect and Shame in Healthcare and Bioethics Workshop:

    Peter Schaber, University of Zurich – “Respect for the Patient’s Wishes.”
    + ECR presentation from Katharine Cheston, University of Durham – “The ‘Wish to be Treated with Dignity, Respect and Empathy’: (Dis)Respect and Shame in the Context of ‘Medically Unexplained’ Illness.”

    This workshop is part of the Respect and Shame in Healthcare Bioethics Workshop Series, and is organised at the University of Exeter by the Wellcome Trust funded Shame and Medicine Project, and Supriya Subramani, Institute of Biomedical Ethics and History of Medicine, University of Zurich.
    • 1:00- 1:40 PM GMT: Respect for the Patient’s Wishes (Peter Schaber)
    • 1:40- 2:00 PM GMT: Open discussion
    • Break (2:00- 2:10 PM GMT)
    • 2:10- 3:00 PM GMT: The ‘Wish to be Treated with Dignity, Respect and Empathy’: (Dis)Respect and Shame in the Context of ‘Medically Unexplained’ Illness (Katharine Cheston)
    • 3:00- 3:20 PM GMT: Feedback from Peter Schaber
    • 3:20- 3:50 PM GMT: Open discussion

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  2. Sean

    Sean Senior Member (Voting Rights)

    Well, yes.

    But I really want is competence, and honesty about where that ends.

    You want to show me Dignity, Respect and Empathy? Learn to say I Don't Know when required, and mean it.
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  3. Snowdrop

    Snowdrop Senior Member (Voting Rights)

    Can I find it ironic if this paper focusses on the patient in terms of how they should be approached by the health care provider? How to treat the patient (empathy, respect dignity).

    For our illness group and others defined away by the BPS this issue is moot. I imagine clinicians have learned already empathy, respect and dignity for the patient even if only as a pseudo form.

    I'd focus on the clinician with regards to how they approach the patient.

    With disbelief, prejudice, hubris. I'm not sure that dignity, respect and empathy completely rule out continuing to think that way. Anyway, health care providers are only approaching patients how they've been trained to (for the most part). And the worst offenders currently are the BPS believers creating a toxic attitude toward patients by holding on to their precious research that can never not be anything but disbelief, prejudice and hubris.

    This focus on the patient makes sense when they don't want to look too close at the real attitudes blocking any useful interaction with the patient.
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  4. Keela Too

    Keela Too Senior Member (Voting Rights)

    From the blurb above:

    I would argue that patients “are shamed” by some professionals, but they don’t necessarily feel a “sense of shame” themselves. I didn’t. I felt frustrated by the lack of understanding, and the fact that certain parties thought I should feel ashamed. Different emphasis I think.
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  5. JemPD

    JemPD Senior Member (Voting Rights)

    Edit, cross posted with @Keela Too :) who said it rather more politely lol

    err, excuse me, but you're doing it too.

    I dont feel shame when i am dismissed or abused, your contempt doesnt shame me despite the fact that it's supposed to. It hurts yes, it cuts deeply when people think things about you that are profoundly insulting and wrong, but i am not ashamed. I reject your shame you arrogant sod. There are people who should feel ashamed... it aint me, it aint us.

    The reason I want respect and for my ilness to be respected, is so i can get my needs met. It's so i can get the care and support i need, not so i can avoid feeling ashamed of myself.

    The author falls into the same ruddy trap they are about to teach others to avoid... I would suggest that his unconsious beleives that there is a shame involved in having MUS & this is about teaching Drs not to show it. If they didnt believe it they would show it. Change your beliefs from Medically Unexplained Symptoms, to Epistomologically Lacking Medics, and you'll solve the entire problem.

    If there were justice in the world this would be a seminar for patients that Doctors dont yet know how to help, encouraging us not to shame or deride our Doctors for not being able to do what we all wish they could!

    Cheeky sod, a 'uniquely intesne shame' indeed!

    Just No, you're reinforcing the problem. Young children feel shame when they are shamed by their care givers.
    Newsflash!!! I'm not one.... despite the generalised infantilisation of PwME/MUS.
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  6. Keela Too

    Keela Too Senior Member (Voting Rights)

  7. NelliePledge

    NelliePledge Moderator Staff Member

    UK West Midlands
    Not ashamed, bloody fuming
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  8. Keela Too

    Keela Too Senior Member (Voting Rights)

    Is Katharine Cheston on here? Can she perhaps explain this major misunderstanding to the speaker?
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  9. Jonathan Edwards

    Jonathan Edwards Senior Member (Voting Rights)

    It looks to me as if Katherine Cheston is the speaker for this piece.
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  10. Hutan

    Hutan Moderator Staff Member

    I think it is quite hard to disentangle the consequences of concerted disrespect. If you know that saying you have ME or CFS will cause you to be treated as a hypochondriac or drama queen or someone whose reports about symptoms should not be trusted, then you might be careful who you tell. The basis of that is partly a rational desire to be treated well, or to not have to prove that you are a competent person. But I think it does also create some shame.

    I know I'm not over-stating my symptoms, I know that changing my behaviour or thoughts doesn't fix my illness. But, from a number of frustrating, fruitless and deeply hurtful encounters with doctors (and others, even a hairdresser), I am left with a sense of shame. A combination of circumstances means that I will have to try to get a disability benefit this month, the first time I have had to try to deal with social welfare. I'm pretty sure I shall be approaching that process with more shame than if I had a multiple sclerosis diagnosis. I know I shouldn't feel shame and I try not to, and I certainly try not to show it, and I do feel anger and frustration too.

    When I try to be proactive and reject the disrespect, even if I do it really politely, I am aware that it makes me look exactly like the prejudiced view so many people hold of a person with ME/CFS. And I sometimes feel ashamed that I am that person who writes the complaining email, and then the followup email...

    I see it in young people with ME/CFS too, some who would often rather be judged lazy or irresponsible than let it be known that they have ME/CFS.

    I don't know, but I reacted differently to the words quoted. Possibly investigations of the impact on people of other forms of prejudice, like racism, might have something useful to say about the effects of concerted disrespect, even on people who rationally know that they have nothing to be ashamed of.
  11. strategist

    strategist Senior Member (Voting Rights)

    I think it depends entirely how you're treated and the age at which you get ill.

    In interactions with healthcare professionals I feel some shame about not having been able to complete my education, be employed and generally having done nothing with my life. I don't feel ashamed of having unexplained symptoms (or at least don't recall feeling that way in a long time). If they don't believe me then that causes irritation and anger but not shame.

    As adolescent I was ashamed in the first years of the illness because I was being treated by everyone as not ill but as misbehaving. There is this strange phenomenon that if you're treated a certain way you end up believing it at least a little.
    Last edited: Nov 8, 2021
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  12. Keela Too

    Keela Too Senior Member (Voting Rights)

    Oh! Right! I read it thinking that the bit I quoted was coming from Peter Shaber who I thought was the main speaker at the workshop. Hmmm. Maybe you are right.
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  13. Keela Too

    Keela Too Senior Member (Voting Rights)

    That might be part of it. I was in my late 40’s when I got ME, and I had no disbelief from my family. So maybe if I’d got ME before my career, and before having my family, and with less understanding from those around me, then maybe I might have found myself being pushed into a position of feeling ashamed of being so ill. I don’t know. But I can see how these things could make quite a difference.
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  14. Andy

    Andy Committee Member (& Outreach when energy allows)

    Hampshire, UK
    I think shame could be a word to use to describe how I felt when I was younger. I was certainly ashamed that I wasn't able to match the perceived level of effort (achievement, performance, whatever word is most appropriate) of people around me, especially those who I perceived, rightly or wrongly, as people that I should be better than for whatever reason.

    As the years have passed, and I started to understand the actual limitations that I had, that feeling has changed into regret, anger and sadness at lost opportunities that I will never get back, but also pride at having achieved what I've been able to despite the hurdles in the way and knowing that the effort I had to put in to achieve those things was actually far more than most people will actually ever make.
  15. Sly Saint

    Sly Saint Senior Member (Voting Rights)

    full presentations now on youtube
  16. duncan

    duncan Senior Member (Voting Rights)

    I wonder what the proximity of Respect and Shame is to Fear and Loathing. I'd argue a stone's throw.

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