It sounds like GET does seem to work for you, at least to some extent. Perhaps you are much more careful than others? I'd love to hear more about your experience. Mine consisted mostly of walking and increasing just a few more steps per minute had been enough to knock me out. I was never able to get past 90 steps per minute and stay safe. Listening to other patients' experience has been the best value I've been getting from forums like this and it would be great to hear about your exercise regimen.
I'm happy to answer this but I don't want anyone to think I'm recommending this for them. I've had mild me/cfs for 22 years now and I know my body and this is what works for me:
Walking has usually been the worst idea for me. I can walk a bit - I'm mild. But there's a hard limit and I can't
increase my walking by walking.
Where I can improve steadily is strength. The best kind of strength for me is recumbent strength. Situps are something I can do just fine, slowly increasing the number. I also do plank and i've added in some upper body strength exercises too with small weights. And recently a few squats as well. I have POTS and there's some evidence that increased leg muscle can improve blood pooling in pots. So I feel this is a good investment of my limited energy. I even got my bike out of the shed in 2024 and did a few bike rides, building up slowly. My first effort was a 2 minute, 800m bike ride on flat ground followed by a 5 day rest. After 4 months of slow progress I got to the point of being able to ride 3km without stopping.
The gym bros talk about "training to failure" meaning lifting heavy weights until you can't, and that's not the way for me. I train to a slight strain then stop. And I use achievable weights and probably manage in 6 months the amount of strength and muscle gain a healthy person can get in one month. But I notice big upside from it.
(However this whole program is always on a knife-edge. Even with my years of experience and my gentle approach I can get PEM. for example I fell apart over xmas and I feel super fatigued and am currently doing no exercises, just resting! I hope to rest my way back to a place where I can start exercising again soon. This is why I think exercise is likely too risky for people who are moderate or severe or who have a history of multi-week/multi-month PEM.)
edit: there's actually five other things I do to make exercise a success that I should mention.
1. do it in the early evening. I'm one of those people who often feels a bit better around 6pm. I use that window to exercise and that is notably less likely to lead to PEM than morning or afternoon exercise.
2. Take paracetamol. At first I found paracetamol eased brain fog during fatigue. I started taking it earlier and earlier in PEM until I began using it prophylactically, i.e. before exercise. Paracetamol, research says, can prevent microglial activation. Is that why I perceive this works? or is it mere superstition!?
3. Eat enough. low blood sugar = mega PEM. And I do seem to need to eat a lot.
4. start slow. If I go to my max output in the first minute I get PEM. Even if I go for a walk I always start in the downhill direction.
5. whey afterward. This is the armstrong-Mella theory that the body preferentially uses amino acids. My doctor (the late Dr Lewis) suggested hydrolysed whey protein isolate and I think it makes a difference to recovery/chance of PEM.
hopefully this emphasises that I'm not just blithely straining myself no matter how I feel. I'm creating a defined set of conditions in a very narrow window and doing a very limited amount during that window.