It's a good point. I know how you train that professional: you get input from people living with ME/CFS.
You tell them to forget everything they previously learned about rehab, just as people with ME/CFS had to unlearn it. And yes, most of us found it every bit as hard to truly believe it as therapists do, because it runs counter to everything in our previous life experience. Sick people gaslight themselves for years, sometimes decades, because it makes so little sense.
To go back to my previous hobby horse about changing habits and attitudes as part of learning pacing, that doesn't need an ME/CFS specialist. It needs a counsellor who believes people's own testimonies, and they may not be so hard to find. They'll probably have encountered other people struggling to change the standards they've always lived by, but need to do so because of illness or disability. The skill is in helping them get it into proper perspective, instead of feeling they're relinquishing a lot of things that are crucial to their sense of identity.
If I could be where I was 40 years ago, I'd seriously consider a few sessions with a counsellor who supports people with acquired disabilities, because it would save me a lot of time and PEM. It might have to be one who knows bugger all about ME/CFS, just in case.
Nah
people early on trying to learn ‘how to manage their health’ - can we please stop using the term pacing as I don’t think it helps us to use a term they’ve made ambiguous at best and actually doesn’t reflect our lives/conundrum as a mental picture anyway - what they need/reasonably expect and assume they are getting when referred to a medical clinic, is medical advice and medical feedback
the problem with GET was that it told GPs to lie to patients that as their health was getting worse it was actually getting better and they were just going mad.
that’s the same principal this person wants to continue with whatever new term.
Most healthy people get fit in sport by doing whatever training and watching their ability to do x get easier and then being better
most ill people with any other condition are offered honest safe medical care that might do blood tests or pressure or whatever before an appointment, assess their health at the appointment (how’s the last six months been) . And the says either what they are doing is working, needs to be tweaked or they need investigation because ‘something else’ seems to be complicating the picture
Not only has this feedback been removed because those people we are sent to aren’t qualified but are pretending they are (to me no different to the objection to if physician associates appointments were given pretending someone was seeing a gp)
but these people are also misleading patients by giving feedback not based on medicine or health or understanding the condition … but their beliefs. And an old model of a different opposite fictional illness from unicorn days.
if you imagine the experience cliche of 10,000 hours for learning a skill. And the counter intuitive nature of me/cfs.
the old staff have zero as they’ve been learning old stuff and mostly closing their ears to patients.
I divided 10,000 by 24hrs and it comes up with 416 days (if that was 24hrs if learning - but then maybe it’s less than that if we aren’t learning when we sleep but then that’s part of the illness is the affect on sleep) . So maybe we are looking at at least a year and a bit just to get used to your new body.
gaslighting will interfere with this. Talking to others who are honest and not using mind reframing will be useful not just for emotional but to help ‘compare that what you observed was consistent’
I mentally can’t finish this thought experiment in full right now but hope you get the gist of trying to think
Everyone in other stuff is happy to sometimes learn from others mistakes or experiences if they feel they get enough detail and context (to know how the situations compare)
At schools and unis there are often mentors and buddies now who are a year or two ahead , similar with some workplaces