my thinking also stems from the idea that being hit "hard enough" by whatever trigger or combination of triggers leads to ME/CFS would fit with having a more severe infection.
I agree with Hutan. I think you can be hit hard pathophysiologically in a way that doesn't mandate initially severe symptoms, but sets up the descent into the ME/CFS phenotype. 4-5 years on I think I was hit pretty damn hard by COVID even if it was asymptomatic. It just took a few months before I even noticed.
This would be similar to HIV -> AIDS where the initial infection/transmission event is symptomatically trivial (even while CD4 Ts are acutely lost) and some years might go by before the ongoing CD4+ T cell depletion leads to the AIDS-defining symptomatic opportunistic infections and malignancies.