Thank you, it was all a very long time ago. I was glad that by the time my daughter started suffering severe period pains there were stronger pain killers available.I’m sorry you had to go through that, @Trish - it must have been horrible! Thank you for sharing!
I’ve had the same exact conversation. Even if I preface by saying “sorry, I feel awful,” it seems like I never get the same understanding.I’m glad she finally understood. I have the same thing when it comes to talking - my dad doesn’t understand that my sometimes short reponses are caused by severe brain fog and not that I’m being rude or crass. Apparently, I can choose to always speak properly if I want to. But he has no issue understanding that his mum with dementia can’t remember things.
I’m very glad for that as well, but my heart breaks that you and so many had to suffer unnecessarily before the consensus changed.Thank you, it was all a very long time ago. I was glad that by the time my daughter started suffering severe period pains there were stronger pain killers available.
That’s a relief to hear. I obviously don’t have any experience with period pains myself, but an ex had undiagnosed severe endometriosis and ended up with liver damage due to her very frequent use of paracetamol. That was my first bystander experience with the flaws of our healthcare system and especially women’s health.Thank you, it was all a very long time ago. I was glad that by the time my daughter started suffering severe period pains there were stronger pain killers available.
The irony is that’s we’d much rather spend a few years on a Survivor island compared to this living hell.Because obviously bodies only break down like that on desert islands.
I literally said that once and my parents just laughed! Because in their minds all my problems were from being overly sensitive and averse to discomfort.The irony is that’s we’d much rather spend a few years on a Survivor island compared to this living hell.
It's not about ignoring pain. It's more about removing the emotional attachment to pain, distraction, stress reduction, etc. It's not directly under your control, but factors such as stress and emotions can upregulate the pain, and other mental factors can downregulate the pain.
it’s obviously a performance or you’re “amplifying” the discomfort by fixating on it.
Exactly, well said! The only way out of it is to just not be sick any more.and conversely, if you can grit your teeth and hide the fact you're in pain, that obviously means the pain isn't that bad. There's no "correct" way to give an external idea of your internal state that will stop someone else dismissing it if that's what they want to do.
Unless you’re a master of online disguise, that would be one of the last characteristics I would use to describe you based on our interactions so far. I’m glad you know yourself, even though I know how much those comments still can hurt.I literally said that once and my parents just laughed! Because in their minds all my problems were from being overly sensitive and averse to discomfort.
Give me a desert island any day.
Haha thank you, that means a lot. It was really just a continuation of old family dynamics for them. I’ve done a lot of work so it doesn’t bother me any more and my mother is coming around these days.Unless you’re a master of online disguise, that would be one of the last characteristics I would use to describe you based on our interactions so far. I’m glad you know yourself, even though I know how much those comments still can hurt.
So how does a 'person' reduce something that is not under 'their' control?
I use scare quotes because my understanding of brain dynamics is that psychologists are totally confused about what they mean by a 'person', or 'control'. Popper based his theory of what is science on the example of Freud as someone who did not practice science. I don't see psychology as having changed substantially from the Freudian approach - the use of uncontrolled observations to confirm what you already thin is the case.
How does mapping out networks bear on any of this. It does not matter whether nerve pathways are on the right or left or above or below or join this or join that if we have no means of understanding what the result is in terms of thought. And we have absolutely no way of relating the two because we understand nothing about the way cells draw inferences from incoming data. This is the are of science I work in when not looking at ME/CFS. The neuroscience still tells us nothing whatever relevant to any hypotheses about causation in ME/CFS.
Cause or effect? Short term pain or chronic pain?
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My point is that nobody has a right to judge others' pain as 'emotional', or having an emotional component. Nor does anyone have the right to judge the reality of living with chronic pain.
Patients can't directly control the pain, but they do have some control over these things which can influence the pain.
Of course psychology has changed a lot since Freud. And we now have neuroscience which shows how pain is processed by the brain.
We do now have methods such as fMRI. This review from 2016 explains it in detail, and I'm sure there are newer reviews as well:
This study is not about ME/CFS, it's about back pain. However, there does seem to be a lot of overlap between chronic pain and ME/CFS, as well as with the interventions that help.
What is the evidence for that in any relevant situation?
What are the published papers?
As I said, I don't see how having neuroscience changes anything much. I have spent a lot of time reading the people who studied mind in the seventeenth century - Descartes, Leibniz, Locke and so on. It is remarkable how much they understood about how the brain must work even though the concept of multicellular organism was only just beginning around 1650 with Hooke's drawings of cells and Leeuwenhoek's observations on protozoa. I studied basic neuroscience in Alan Hodgkin's department in the 1960s and work on fine detail of brain biophysics. I don't see that neuroscience has actually made much difference to the topic we are discussing. Descartes worked out that when the boy touches a fire messages were sent up to his brain via his nerve fibres involving subtle movements of tiny particles. We now know they are metal cations and neurotransmitters but what difference does that make to the overall analysis?
I am not hearing any arguments or seeing any evidence for psychology being able to tell us anything useful here.
Emotional circuits in the brain are fundamental to brain processing. See: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8675872/