Is it too early to propose models? I propose an abnormal immune response in the brain as the root cause, involving a feedback loop that is normally negative, but in ME, it goes positive, locking us into this abnormal state. The vagus nerve could be part of the feedback loop.
This model fits any initial trigger that would activate or involve the immune systems. The reason why these normal events push the feedback loop positive might be genetic, developmental, environmental, or some other reason.
If the mechanism in the brain depends on specific characteristics of brain cells, it could affect different parts of the brain to different degrees in different individuals, resulting in the wide range of symptoms and sensitivities. I don't think any of Kitty's core symptoms can't be explained by this model. For example, in one person, the brain cells connected to the gut are affected, resulting in digestive symptoms. In someone else, the cells processing vision are affected, resulting in light hypersensitivity. Studying the brain structure and comparing with symptom frequency (how many people have it) might reveal something. For example, is there something unique about the brain cells processing pain signals front thigh muscles? Maybe it's the largest grouping, or is closest to some other specific part of the brain, or has more/less blood supply? That's the muscle that is the first for me to have ME pain, and maybe it's just an artifact of artwork, but the Mayo Clinic's diagram of symptoms has "Pain" pointing at that muscle group, so maybe that's common among PWME, and thus indicating something.
Changes in severity can be explained by slight changes in the cells involved in the feedback loop or cells receiving communication from these. For example, changing the ratio of fatty acids in the diet could affect the structure of the cell membranes, changing the "equation" of chemical processing in the cell.
I like the model of a feedback loop because the abrupt switching of state (full ME to full non-ME) is what I would expect from an amplifier that changes the sign of the feedback loop factor. In electronics, making the feedback loop even slightly positive causes the output to snap into the maximum output voltage, whether positive or negative. For brain cells, the output could be production of some protein or change of membrane transport of certain molecules, or some other such thing.
As for why this model doesn't show obvious markers, the changes in the brain cells don't need to be dramatic. What percentage change in protein production, number of a certain type of transport channels, or rate of glial process growth would be required to cause brainfog, lethargy, malaise, etc? Some of these factors probably can't be measured in dead tissue, and we might still not have the technology to measure them in-situ. Experimenting with (safe) brain cell altering chemicals might be a way of testing that model.
I include the vagus nerve as a possible part of the model because it's bi-directional, including immune system control signals, connects to most if not all of the parts of the body that show ME symptoms, and involves the gut microbiome.
So, go ahead and take your shots at this model. That's what it's there for.