I’m sorry but I’ve been religiously doing me/cfs and all these things. It isn’t working
@Kitty
the force within people is too strong re the cfs bigotry
I just waste my energy explaining it and gif a social prescription woman solving her cognitive dissonance in front of me by saying ‘I think the others I’ve seen have cfs’ as if that would make me happy.
she couldn’t have been told better and had education from me , 25% group materials, physiofirme materials and the OT
but I could see she was intending to let it go in (and is in a position where if different patients are using different terms that doesn’t help - I know both people who only use cfs and those who only use me)
and the me/cfs is now being used to let people choose and use the get out of jail free that it’s two different illnesses - one of which of course every person won’t believe in .
I had faith and having done the theory in realising a new term would be co-opted by bps even worse and we’d end up with it being used like FND very much agreed with this being the way
but it isn’t working unless there is a massive campaign forcing people to see that term as MECFS and banning them using and/or and all the rest.
it’s being played to high heavens in the ground and used massively by those who want to continue to cuddle their preconceptions to avoid updating.
my local clinic has gone from biomedical cfs/me to chronic fatigue syndrome since the guideline change
the coding is still cfs not me/cfs
it’s not working and isn’t happening and I’ve used all my energy to try
I can’t believe have awful people are
it’s such a tyranny letting every person you meet have control over your identity and toy with your access or legitimacy as a person. This is what this situation is doing and has done and I’m seeing no chance of change.
no one is getting told off or forced to change to stop harming or start respecting . So no there no treatment but weve not only not even got basic respect of names but had disrespected ladened by leaving the old guard BACME in charge without telling them they’ll have to be directed by us/that’s now conditional so we’ve got them lecturing US about ‘we will only be listened to if they like it’ veiled in bs phrases like ‘cooperative and professional’ when ignoring and silencing is neither.
And no bystanders have said they need to change their attitude mindset and skills/approach to the illness do they are now emboldened. And are the ones choosing the name of clinic’s therefore our identity and writing the propaganda that goes on websites saying it’s boom and bust etc
they won’t change so why are we being forced to not get rid on that basis so we can have open fresh minds who do want to learn not make up their own narrative to fit their ‘belief system’ which is a tyranny for and our health. Saying we should waste our energy talking to them is tosh because as they’ve demonstrated they aren’t interested in changing just playing that feedback to pretend ‘they are offended’ when they should feel really concerned at their mistakes and want to change us the right reaction. No one can work with that attitude. You can’t leave patients stuck with an immovable object.
And takes away our hope because they aren’t going to be looking at objectively understanding more and making research in the right areas possible
but they are going to influence newbies into saying the right things and telling other heakth professionals oh no I like cfs as a term (stoking disunity with more experience ld patients ‘don’t be like them etc’ assuming we are more ill because we aren’t enthusiastic like them) and to say ‘I think CBT helps’ and ‘I’m feeling better for increasing what I do’ until it doesn’t etc.
Anyway the term is being used by those who’ve been left with power who shouldn’t to cause havoc. It’s being interpreted as a choice not a term. And they are using it to stoke division which is undermining all headway I’ve made with the good other medical professionals who don’t call themselves ‘ME experienced’ but now know more than they do because they’ve taken more of the new info on board than the old guard have. So keeping the old in place is now undermining change because they went quieter fir a few years but I think now feel as they are still here tgat they can go back to assuming no one is going to make them change, it’s back to old habits with the rest defaulting to their claims of being the experts.