Invisible Woman
Senior Member (Voting Rights)
Others came to consider their life before CFS/ME an undesirable state, which had contributed to their becoming ill in the first place, a place they did not want or need to return to
This sounds very familiar to me from when I was first ill and happened to have a fair bit of contact with people recovering from cancer.
Many of them seemed to believe
- They got cancer for a reason & it was a warning that they were unhappy or unfulfilled.
- The cancer was a physical manifestation of unresolved emotional or psychological issues. Such as having a stressful job or having had relationship problems.
- To move forward they had to address the underlying issue by changing career, leaving the relationship or whatever. This was seen as fundamental to recovery and staying well in the future.
They neglected to take into account the many millions spent on cancer research, the very well educated health professionals that treated them and the very expensive & organised support services available.
Flat refusal to consider that, for some, blaming work or a spouse, was a convenient abdication of their own responsibilities in their work & home life.
I would add that in cancer recovery tends to mean being cancer & symptom free. Remission being a possible temporary improvement. No need for any nexus at all.