Richard's personal story
In 2013, Richard Gavette was living the life of his dreams. He loved his everyday life as an entrepreneur and in his spare time he danced salsa and bachata with his girlfriend Evelina, went out with friends, meditated, nerded out on tea and chocolate and, when the opportunity arose, wrote some music. But on 24 November 2013, Richard's life changed drastically. A week before he and Evelina were due to move, he had an accident in which he hit his head, resulting in a severe concussion. Instead of the injury healing, Richard developed severe permanent brain fatigue, which meant he could only cope with about 45 minutes of mental stimulation per day, including talking to people. Every time he tried to increase his level, it led to a complete physical crash and he could be knocked out for days.
As if that wasn't bad enough, in the traumatic period after the accident, Richard developed a severe form of the neurological disease ME/CFS, which left him physically frail and almost bedridden. He was now completely dependent on the help and support of his loved ones. He spent his days lying down with dizziness and headaches.
Richard was only 27 years young when he had to accept the fact that his life as a normal human being was over. He had become a prisoner in his own body. To cope with his illness, Richard now needed to spend 22 hours a day in complete silence and rest. At first, he was going crazy. A human being is simply not made to live like that. With so little stimuli. With so much silence. It was a life without human life.
But after a while, something happened. The silence of rest, which until then had felt dead and terrifyingly silent, turned out to be bursting with life and anything but silent. With great fascination, Richard began to explore the silence and he allowed himself to really listen to it. He heard words. He heard music. The symphony of silence became his companion through the long hours of enforced rest. He was never alone. He began to dream of one day doing something with what he heard in the silence.
Time passed and months turned into years. Richard did his best to keep his spirits up, but the truth was that he was slowly getting worse. His little ‘bubble of life’ was shrinking with each passing month. He became more and more physically fragile.
In the autumn of 2017, Richard's neurological disease escalated completely, leaving him bedridden and barely able to cope with any mental stimuli. As Richard's disease was considered incurable - and knowledge of it in Swedish healthcare was very poor - Richard and his family knew there was little help available in hospital. But when Richard's condition continued to escalate to the point where he could no longer pee and poo or move in his bed, Richard's parents capitulated and called an ambulance to take Richard to Varberg Hospital. At the time, Richard had no feeling or movement from the neck down and he feared that it would spread to his head and that he would lose the ability to speak.
As Richard lay there in the hospital bed in the emergency room and it seemed like life was leaving his body altogether, Richard made a promise to himself:
‘If I somehow manage to get back home and get something of a life back, I will devote my life to trying to realise the books and music of my dreams.’
And somewhere in the chaos of the hospital, things turned around. After a couple of days, Richard regained feeling and movement from the neck down, and after another couple of days he was able to stand up, and a couple of days later he was once again able to pee and poo and move around a bit in his hospital room.
There was no medical explanation for what happened in the hospital, but Richard and his family chose to see it as a gift of life. After three weeks, Richard was discharged from hospital and this year's Christmas presents from the community were a wheelchair and a shower stool...
For Richard, it was like getting a new life in the same body. The day after Richard returned home, he started walking the path of dreams. He was still very ill, barely able to move around his home and still very much in need of help from his loved ones - but his condition was relatively stable and his brain was once again allowing him about 45 minutes of mental stimulation per day.
To get something done with his dreams, Richard had to give up several things that used to be part of his life. For several years, he didn't read the news, use YouTube, Facebook or other social media. He spent 10 minutes a day communicating with loved ones and the remaining 35 minutes writing and creating.
Richard began to wander and one poem eventually became a hundred poems - and one book became several books. A completed demo became a completed demo album. And he kept walking - one small step at a time. The weight of Richard's illnesses was ever present and every day was a dance on the edge of a knife, but as long as he was writing and creating, he felt happy and alive.
In the 6 years that Richard was able to indulge his dreams, before illness struck and he died in the spring of 2024, he wrote and completed more than 1000 poems and lyrics and more than 350 songs. Richard's 18 books are available as e-books at Adlibris and Bokus and in PDF form on his website. Richard's music is available on Spotify and YouTube and since spring 2022, Richard's songs are produced and sung by musician and producer Benjamin Önnhed.
Richard's personal story reminds us that it is possible to realise our innermost dreams. If Richard could do it, most of us probably can.