Presumably you have never lived with a secret eater. I have. It is all very subtle and invisible, except when things slip up.
I also have! And it was very different than the situations I'm describing. Again, you can feel free to believe that dozens of people I knew throughout my life are secretly horking down way more than I do on a daily basis. Or you could acknowledge that the current paradigm is insufficient
It isn't a matter of common sense. It was a matter of years of painstaking study. I remember my father showing me his equipment and how he used it.
And like I said--it's a model that seems to hold up
in some. Just like models of exercise training and increasing physical activity very clearly hold up in most of the population and then fail spectacularly for certain cases.
You don’t need to be horking down. An egg a day adds 3-4 kilos a year. That’s well within the margins of guesstimates.
I’m not sure if you meant it, but effort doesn’t matter. Compliance to the budget does.
I’m an economist and I have a special interest in personal economy. The average person does not have a clue about their spendings - at best they guesstimate. So many people wonder why they don’t have more money at the end of the month, but if you gave me their banking info, I could show them where every cent went. They are usually shocked and in denial.
I have a very hard time believing that the average person is any better at keeping track or their caloric budget so to speak, even when trying. It’s a lot more complicated and abstract. That is not a character flaw, in my eyes. But it is a flaw with their execution.
If someone were able to track every single thing they put into their mouth and their weight over six months, I would believe it as a contradiction. And that would be using their kitchen scale for every ingredient. In the absence of that, I’m sceptical about there actually being contradictions.
I do understand your concerns here, I really do. And believe me, I would have been sharing those thoughts several years ago. It's only through several deeply painful personal experiences that I realized everything I thought I knew about weight was wrong.
Like I said, I don't expect people to take me at my word, especially when I'm not going to take the time to trot out those personal narratives. I can just give personal attestation that I was also sitting there
insisting that some of these friends must simply be calculating wrong, they must simply be unaware of something important, until the total amount of evidence accumulated that classical narratives of weight gain can't account for everything I'm seeing.
[Edit: and, I'll note, one of those experiences was watching a friend do exactly what you describe down to the kitchen scale for the purposes of losing weight for a life saving surgery. The surgery went fine even though they didn't lose weight--after trying for nearly a year with a level of diligence I found superhuman. They eventually found a surgeon who was competent enough to do their job on a fat patient]
I think this same "blindness" you describe here absolutely runs in the opposite direction in terms of evidence against this oversimplified model. There is such a deeply culturally ingrained belief that maintaining weight is a common sense paradigm, and people will jump through a million hoops to explain why someone who stuck with diets for years simply didn't do it right and that's why they are still fat. What I've learned through those experiences is that fatphobia is one of the most insidious cultural narratives I have ever witnessed. It's violent and it's deadly. But everyone is walking around acting like it doesn't exist. I'm very glad to have had people in my life that challenged me sufficiently, and it took an enormous amount of patience on their part until I realized I was wrong and deeply apologized