It makes good sense that we should be trying to understand what helps.
I am afraid though part of the difficulty is the intractability of the condition.
If there was a genuine cure the news would spread like wildfire via the net.
I have had 30 years to try to find what helps and have found primarily that I need to respond differently to different predicaments the condition creates to prevent negative extremes but nothing thus far will abolish the syndrome. I have tried to collect my observations in a blog in case it helps others.
https://boolyblog.blogspot.com/
I find the helpful behaviour is to rest and pace and listen to my body and respond with sympathy to any discomfort. As for activity doing nothing is always better than doing something except for strategic interventions in diet and regular stretching exercises and occasionally meditation aimed at reducing mental activity to a minimum, the last two definitely assist sleep.
Otherwise most of what I do is a trade off between resting, doing chores, entertaining myself or doing something constructive which supports self esteem and personal morale. I am largely housebound but managed to avoid becoming bed bound at the point where it could have been so, my guess is because I did a lot of rowing training for endurance fitness at college. That is not something you can do after you get ME, I have found zero anabolic response to exercise since onset and I tried quite hard in the early years, exercise is IMHO definitely not helpful. I may be atypical though because I have always had perpetual regular bouts of strong diagnosable viral activity which creates a cycle of viral illness and partial recovery followed by another bout which produces a couple of days every couple of months between viral episodes when I feel less dreadful. So the immune response is so severely stimulated it has to fight back as it were a "dead cat bounce" despite an underlying failure of some part of it. So this cycle has broken up what might have been a slow and steady decline.
Pressurised interventions of any kind are not helpful psychologically. People with ME need to be able to relax because tension uses energy. This is exacerbated by the way the nervous system often becomes hypersensitive in ME, which may be related to emotional lability and also sleep hygiene is a particularly delicate matter since sleep is a neurological state. I find my sleep rhythm very easily disturbed by cognitive factors and the best way to get better sleep is to have nothing to do and feel a bit bored. Any kind of pressurising regime would be counterproductive.
Nutrition is a major category for helpful things and falls into two categories, things to take and things to avoid.
e.g. some days I need to go anti-inflammatory and take Kirkman B-vits, plus B12 (methyl) and zinc, other days I need to support energy and will take D-ribose and L-carnitine. Other days I have bad cramps and need to boost calcium (especially after exposure to sunshine) and use cramp bark tincture and other days I have heart arrhythmia and need to boost Mg. In winter I need vitD and extra calcium (I dont eat dairy). I also need plenty of salt including extra potassium from Lo-Salt which I take 50/50 with iodised salt.
I have experimented with ketogenic diets and find I cannot live without carb but too much is also detrimental. I do well on a lipid heavy diet but it has to be the right lipid, coconut oil is harmful due to high MCTs as discussed in my latest blog. I believe might be partly the reason I dont do well with dairy, which also exacerbates my allergies. But heavier veg and nut oils are fine.
I feel like a guy in a leaky boat on the high seas, deciding which leak needs plugging on a daily basis! I listen to my intuition in that regard which sometimes picks up on conditional relationships in my environment I have not consciously recognised.
The best ameliorative I have found is hop tea.
Code:
Hop tea with marigold, damiana and bucchu,
proportions 8:4:2:1 respectively, by volume of dry herb.
This mix is a very mild tranquiliser with hepatic tonic due to bitter principle (hops)
and immune tonic (marigold)
with nerve tonic (damiana)
and urinary antiseptic and anti-infective (bucchu).
I find it helps especially during a rubbish patch.
Another one is cramp bark tincture, which is a mild but effective anxiolytic especially good at alleviating cramps. Though attention to mineral balance is always recommended for cramps (especially Ca / Mg & Na / K).
I have to strictly avoid all nightshades, which set off some kind of inflammatory mouth ulcer generating reaction. I feel lousy if I eat them now. I avoid caffeine drinks entirely and stimulating foods with high amine content, I avoid all stimulating "anti" inflammatories (i.e. stimulating immune suppressants with adrenalin like action) also MAO inhibitors as in nutmeg and olive oil and quercetin as in onions which act to prevent eliminating stimulating amines.
These are the kind of strategies I find helpful, FYI. Hope it helps
P.S. I forgot to mention environmental temperature, since a few years after onset I have experienced neurological rigours (shivering fits of unusual intensity) as a result of getting cold. But ever since the swine flu epidemic I have had temperature dependant viral recurrence as well, so if I got chilled I would catch cold, very easily. After several years the full blown cold has reduced but I experience relapse like episodes resulting from chilling. As a consequence I have to keep my environment at around 27°C and must use synthetic fleece headwear like hoodies and beanie hats and zipper jackets to assist with avoiding chilling, of my head in particular, if I am in an environment of lower temperature, even just one degree cooler.]
P.P.S. I also have to be very careful about lectins now or I get headaches, this means cooking all the lectin containing foods for long periods, e.g. red lentils are fine as long as I boil them for 35 mins minimum, likewise maize based foods. If I undercook them I get headaches. Ditto green veg and nuts with skin on. This is a recent development subsequent to a coconut diet which I have now stopped, see my blog for more on that, I think they are related and coconut medium chain triglycerides may increase inflammatory responses for some people.