I also have to say that as with all other long term severe illness, there are patients that develops both anxiety and depression. In the CFS/ME group it’s approximately 30%, with these secondary symptoms.
I think I definetly have developed something like anxiety and depression. My mental state has been worse than I thought possible for a while. Mostly I’m just so traumatised by the norwegian healthcare system.
It can give an increased level of mastering, increased level of predictability, and can help the patients with symptom relief and to feel better in their every day life.
I had a horrible experience seeing a psychologist last year.
One of the reasons I wanted to see a therapist was to talk about my close friend with ME who had severe suicidal thoughts, which was giving me what felt like panic attacks. I told her I did not want help with ME at all, because no psychologist can help me with that, I wanted help with things like anxiety, trauma and feeling too vulnerable.
I was not allowed to talk about any of the traumatic things or emotional issues I wanted help with. Everything I wanted to talk about was just overthinking and ruminating according to her, which she said was the cause of my ME. She told me her goal was to get me to not listen to my own thoughts anymore. Not helpful when I’m traumatised and struggle to feel like anything is real anymore, have no sense of self and don’t trust myself or my opinions.
I just needed someone to talk to after years of suffering alone, but I wasn’t allowed to talk.
In the sessions she mocked me, made fun of my fears, talked about things completely unrelated to my needs, like my «fear of activity», constantly policed my language and word choices, tried to twist everything I said against me, tried to put words in my mouth and attributed a dozen characteristics to me that were inaccurate. This is what happends when you think the way to fix a patient is to make them stop believing what they’re thinking and feeling.
I agree that one can’t think oneself healthy. One can think oneself strong, of worth, and that may be helpful in a rehabilitation process.
Let me tell you how difficult that is when you’re abused, gaslighted, disbelieved, not allowed to speak for yourself, refused the help you need to get by, mocked in the papers by the people who claim to want to help you, forced into treatments that make you worse. And never, not a single health professional you meet along the way will even slighly ackowledge the seriousness of your illness, the reality of PEM or that it isn’t your fault that you’re ill.
And the abuse you’ve suffered will of course not be aknowledged either.
The people with a psychological focus on ME seem to care the absolute least about my emotional well being. They say psychological factors are important, but I doubt many patients are getting any useful help there either.
And things like anxiety and depression might develop less in patients if we were treated with more respect and care, and not bullied into this psychosocial nonsense.
I think it’s important to see the whole patient
I have never felt less seen than by psychologists and LP coaches.
If they want to see the whole patient, why won’t they listen to us? Our stories, our experiences in this health care system. They say psychological help is important in chronic illnesses. Okay, but how is that actually working in reality for the patients? In my experience, completely disasterous.
I was so distraught after the experience with this psychologist. I wanted to report it to someone but I couldn’t figure out where. Who would actually listen to me, about how I thought it was wrong that the center my psychologist worked at had hired a LP coach, or that the psychologist tried to cure me by fixing my «fear of activity» and «wrong thinking», when the national health competence for ME regularly states that LP and CBT is important for ME. To me it seemed like my psychologist was just acting according to the view of the competence center.
And that was the scariest thing about the whole experience. The people that are hired to help us in this system are just letting the abuse continue, actually encouraging it. Maybe they don’t realise this. Maybe they don’t realise what actually happens at LP courses or between patients and psychologists, but they would if they listened. I think one the most important jobs of a competence center should be to listen.