[note to moderators - should this be a new thread? it seems off topic but then I notice that some threads tend to wander a bit, so it may be okay?]
Your message comes across as very reasonable,
@ahimsa. However, on another forum some of us used to frequent it was commonplace for patients to recommend treatments that others picked up and loads of people were taking all sorts of weird and wonderful stuff. ... A number of people managed to get themselves treated with rituximab, despite the doctors who had initially tested it asking for this not to happen. Now we know rituximab has no useful effect. Lots of people ended up on anti-vitals, which as far as we know are of no benefit. So there was nothing pretty rare about this
Thanks for your reply. I realized after I posted (which is why I added the edit) that things can be more complex than they seem at first glance. I certainly don't want to unduly influence someone in the wrong way.
As far as I can see the poster starting this thread was uncertain whether or not they had been given the right diagnosis of radiculopathy and wanted opinions on whether the symptoms might be part of ME. As a doctor I am very aware that you simply do not start to get involved in answering that without having taken a full history and done a full medical exam. There are too many unknowns.
I see what you are saying. And yet, I think there are times when it might be helpful to listen to other patients' descriptions.
It's not that the other patients are actually trying to diagnose anyone online (at least, I was not trying to diagnose the patient who posted). It's just that patients are sharing experiences.
I guess I generally give patients more credit that they can read this information, understand the context in which it was given, and then talk with their doctor and make their own decisions about their care. This shared information might spark an idea that could be quite helpful.
When I first got sick I went for 5 years without any diagnosis at all (or maybe a few tentative diagnoses that then later were discarded, not sure, memory is a bit fuzzy). I saw so many different doctors who took a full history, did medical exams, etc. None of them had any answers.
I don't blame the doctors. They tried! (Well, most doctors tried, leaving out the bad stories to keep this short).
It was only by listening to ideas from other patients (most ideas did not apply to me at all, of course) that finally led me to a diagnosis. It was only by listening to other patients that I learned about the tilt table test and found out that I had orthostatic intolerance (OI). And that led me to finding some treatments. But even without any treatment just knowing that I had OI helped me because then I knew to avoid things (heat, standing) that trigger my OI symptoms.
I don't know how long I would have gone without a diagnosis if I had only gone to doctors and never talked with other patients to compare symptoms and diagnoses to see if they matched my own experiences.
I guess I worry it is unhelpful for other PWME to say yes they have that too. It is very easy to be reassured by such comments and maybe entirely inappropriately
I think it makes sense to try to be careful but I don't think we should refrain from sharing experiences and symptoms. A patient should be able to say, "Well, here's my experience" but at the same time there should be the realization that we're all different. Even patients who share a relatively well known illness that has a well defined treatment might have different reactions to meds, for example.
Just some rambling thoughts.