Is being pushed in a wheelchair humiliating? BBC: Disabled man drags himself on floor through airport

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-45765767

After the airport forgot to load his self propel wheelchair, this paraplegic man chose to drag himself along the floor through the airport rather than be pushed in a 'push only' wheelchair.
His reasons are that it would be humiliating & degrading to have his independence taken away by not propelling himself.

While i recognise that airport services for disabled passengers is abysmal... what does it say about his view of those of us who aren't able to self propel?

I cant possibly self propel & i cant have an electric chair either because i get so confused & disoriented that it wouldn't be safe. I had to work hard to overcome the erroneous but society sanctioned shame of losing my independence & needing help. And i find it somewhat insulting that someone who i'd have thought might have a more enlightened view thinks that the indignity of being pushed would be so shameful as to humiliate them, demean them in some way.

Thanks very much but I am not demeaned by needing that help, why should it be a shameful thing to need it?

I am with the guy in his anger, and in his protest at poor service, but he needs to get over his pride. Some of us have to be pushed, some of us have lost our independence & we are not made less by it. I refuse to be humiliated by it.

Maybe i'm being over sensitive but i dunno something about this just smacked of something unpleasant. What do others think?

 

Thinks being pushed in a wheelchair is humiliating but dragging himself along the ground is not? This is so stupid it's hard for me to feel sympathetic.

 

I think the important distinction he is making, is that he is capable of self propelling, and that it is his means of getting around. The indignity of him being pushed comes from the fact that he doesn't need to be, yet the choice was taken away from him.

I think the point comes from the fact that part of dignity is not having your choices taken away from you arbitrarily. I don't think he would say that you are demeaned by being pushed. I don't think you are demeaned by how you are moved in your wheelchair, as long as you don't feel demeaned.

How do you feel about people pushing your chair (and you) without your consent? I hear of that happening quite a lot, especially to move people 'out of the way'.

In his case, I suspect that self propelling is important to him and how he views himself.

 

I think it’s quite common for disabled people to have their own prejudices like anyone else. I read the article and I can sort of see his position, but think he needs to calm down and be a bit more adaptable. He’s sporty so with that comes a certain level of self centredness and I guess he’s using drive to stay motivated to show the world what he can do and he’s not going to let his disability beat him etc (yawn). Sometimes driven people can be a right royal pain in the arse to be around. He probably doesn’t realise he’s being a pain or that he is limiting his outlook to a fairly shallow stereotype. Perhaps he needs to meet a wider variety of people?

 

Another point, what the hell did they expect him to do after leaving the airport?

"Sorry we left your only means of mobility 100's of miles away, but we offered you an uncomfortable chair with shopping trolley wheels to get you outside" is a pretty shite response.

If they tied people's legs together, then carried them outside and left them on the pavement it would not be considered ok.

 

This is a good point.

But nobody took hold of him & pushed him into the chair, he was given the option. Similar to somebody saying to me "I'm sorry but i need to get past would it be ok if i pushed you to one side a bit."

Exactly. I obviously don't know this person, but i think this reflects a societal attitude that independence = good, & dependence = bad.

And if it's humiliating to take the choice of being pushed instead of dragging yourself along a filthy floor, likely scratching your skin & tearing your clothes in the process, simply because you could self propel if you had the right equipment, it still seems to me like you would feel ashamed if you needed to be pushed.
And i understand that shame, i used to feel it. And it's wrong, it's wrong that society makes us feel like that. And somehow stories like this just indirectly seem to feed into the narrative of 'worthy/deserving' 'paralympian-type' disabled people who overcome & achieve etc (-Which is admirable but lets face it most of them are not in any way ill), as opposed to those of us who are seen as undeserving/negative/dont make the effort to overcome it, etc. It's in every (now very mild or non) CFS sufferer overcomes illness to run marathon (or whatever), story in the media.

Of course it was his choice to make & fair enough if he'd rather drag than be pushed, but it's his reasoning i find sad & a little insulting.

 

Agreed!

 

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No doubt the **** who yelled at me from the other side of the street a while back to "get out of that chair you lazy bitch" will find this disabled chap's dragging choice laudable

 

I'm sorry you experienced that.

All I've seen is abuse for him in comments on media sites.

The reporting is terrible. I think the fact that they offered to push him to the exit of the airport was just the cherry on the cake for him. They had no temporary replacements suitable for him after he left the airport, which meant however he got to his taxi, meant he had no mobility afterwards.

It's not unknown for airports to lose luggage, and as a proportion of this involves mobility aids, I don't see how they should get away from the foreseeable consequences of their own incompetence. In fact, I would think that mobility/medical aids, should be treated differently to other luggage in care and priority. If you lose my clothes, fine, we
sort out a quick replacement if needs be, but if you lose the equivalent of my legs and then shrug it off, well, I'm going to be very angry.

 

Abuse for the guy is not ok

I hope nothing i've said could be construed as such. For me it was as much a discussion about whether society/people in general think it's humiliating to not be independent, as it was about his specific actions.

I agree it's disgraceful that they were so cavalier about the whole thing, it's appalling the lack of general awareness, let alone appropriate service among airport staff. It is indeed they who should feel ashamed.

Completely agree that mobility/medical aids should be a much higher priority than regular luggage, i'm staggered that they are not already! - imagine if that happened after an outwardbound flight to a developing nation where a replacement might be impossible to come by!

 

I don't think anything you said would rank highly on the annoyance scale of what he usually reads.

The ideas society has about independence are wrong a lot of the time, imo. Unless we're a self sufficient hermit we're dependant on a lot of things we don't really think about. A lot of time we are co-dependent on family, friends, and strangers. It's how societies function after all.