I forget conversations I've recently had with my husband.
I forget where he's gone or how long it will be until he's back. (I used to complain that he didn't tell me)
I forget multiple times over the course of a day that there are people coming for dinner.
I forget what day it is many times a day.
I forget names of people I know really well.
I forget how to use the microwave, the tv,
I forget why I am in a shop and don't know which direction to go when I leave a shop in familiar surroundings
Without a system I forget whether I've taken medication or not
In years past I've forgotten to pick up children from preschool, forgotten to attend events they had on.
I don't think I've explained what I mean by everyday memory very well. A lot of things that seem like memory failures are not actually failures of memory itself, they're failures in some other really sophisticated cognitive skill that
operates on the memory.
So for example, remembering you have people coming to dinner involves
so much more than just remembering you invited them. You have to find a way of keeping that
future goal in the front of your mind, even when other things distract you. After the distraction is over, you need a way to cue that bigger goal, get it back to the front of your mind. These are very sophisticated skills, so its not surprising that they are the first to be affected when you're not at your best.
Memory, at its core, is just the ability to keep some sort of vague record of things you did recently, so that
when prompted, they come to mind. Its is pretty short and decays fast. Our memory for routine events (like eating breakfast) is no more than a few hours, if it wasn't memorable in any way. For things that are a bit out of the ordinary, its slightly longer. So for example, if you saw a strange man in the street outside your window talking to a doll yesterday, and someone asked if you'd seen a strange man that day, you'd remember. Its kind of effortless, that sort of memory, because its a recent event, an unusual one, and you're prompted.
People with advanced Alzheimer's don't get this glimmer of recognition. Its a complete blank to them, like the event never happened.
So "pure" memory is pretty limited. To recall most things, we have to piece together the information like a detective. Like when you lose your sweater and have to mentally backtrack to discover where you might have left it. You put together a strategy: you think about things you did that were memorable and relevant, like a memory of spilling something on your sweater at a bar yesterday. You self-prompt. Slowly you work out when you last recall having it. This is a complex skill, and its very hard for anyone not at their best.
(side note if you're curious: how do we remember things from our childhood? The answer is, we only remember some selected things, and we do this by repeatedly recalling those things, discussing them, and then they become part of our factual database Like what a cat is. So its a different kind of memory again (and that's why people with Alzheimer's are so good at remembering their distant past).