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Thoughts On Reaching 40 by Naomi Whittingham

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  1. Eagles

    Eagles Established Member (Voting Rights)

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  2. Barry

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    I'm afraid I've already gone past that in hexadecimal ... heading towards 41 now :rolleyes:.
     
  3. TiredSam

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    Brilliant writing.
     
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    When I look at my own son, or when I read accounts like this, I always realize how lucky I was to have been healthy up to the age of 49. There's a deep, burning anger about their neglect that drives me on: I could accept it more if society had done its best for them, but it just ignores their situation.
     
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    Surely you forget St Esther? All that dedication and money and no clearer as to how to diagnose ME
     
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    Very relatable and good to read such wise reflections, and someone putting words to these thoughts and feelings. Am deeply impressed over Naomi.
     
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    Whoa...Naomi...powerful stuff.
     
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    Good of Naomi to make this point. It's often overlooked, since media articles and films etc are, almost by definition, usually written by or about those a little less severe, or about the very severe who have supportive family.
     
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    Agree! It also turns my stomach each time I see the oh-so-old-angle; patient came down with whatever, simply wouldn't accept it and is now doing much better. Bah!
     
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    I agree Graham. My husband and I were 28 when we were first ill, but we had been able to go to uni, travel, work, get married so luckier than so many.

    I'm really sorry Eagle and others who have missed out on so much of life x
     
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    Strong fellow feeling here, @Graham. I was lucky to be healthy to age 40, my daughter got ME aged 16, though it had probably started sooner, as she had a gradual onset. Now 37 she has had no life apart from living at home with me. I am humbled by how stoically and without self pity she copes and makes the best of the little she can do.

    Naomi's article is beautifully written and so so sad but uplifting at the same time.
     
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    I'm happy her blog is well received. I felt it was important to share her thoughts and wisdom with everyone but I can't help but feeling angry about the situation with ME as well...

    Thank you for sharing it!!
     
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    Beautifully written indeed.
     
  14. Amw66

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    A very eloquent and touching piece. I hope that it gets the wider coverage it deserves.
     

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